Pushed too hard

BEN SHAW 2002-20170901

Ben Shaw, 15, dies after being found pinned under PCYC gym equipment
OCTOBER 2 2017

Surrounded by family and friends, the 15-year-old boy who was found pinned underneath gym equipment at Pine Rivers PCYC on Tuesday night has died in hospital.

Ben Shaw's family issued a statement on Sunday after the teenager died at the Lady Cilento Children's Hospital.

“Ben passed away yesterday afternoon with his family and friends around him," the statement said.

"Ben was able to leave a legacy and donate his organs and tissue, giving life to others.

The teenager was working out at the Pine Rivers PCYC gym when the incident occurred. Photo: Facebook

"We’d like to thank everyone who has been involved in Ben’s care, including all friends and family."

Social media has been flooded with tributes to the young man, including one from his rugby league club.

"On behalf of Pine Central Holy Spirit Rlfc, I would like to send our heartfelt condolences to the Shaw family," club president Sharon Hickey wrote.

"Yesterday afternoon they lost their beautiful Ben and has been able to leave a legacy by donating his tissue and organs to enable recipients have their lives saved and changed forever as a result.

"As a club, we will be assisting to see the world through Ben's eyes and ensure his legacy lives on in support of his parent's and family."

Friends took to social media to pay tribute to the teenager.

"Ben Shaw, you helped me through so much! I'm so thankful for it! You were my best friend and you will be missed so much!" one wrote.

"I will never forget all of our good times together and how we always used to hang, you where (sic) always there for me rest in peace and fly high my angel you will be missed."

Another posted: "R.I.P Ben Shaw taken way to (sic) early brother, did not deserve what happen (sic) like they say good die young, its (sic) not fair one bit but.. will always and forever rember (sic) you, see you one day."

"Never thought id (sic) have to say this so early in life but rest in peace brother," a third wrote.

It is understood Mr Shaw had been working out on the bench-press at the Pine Rivers gym about 8pm when equipment came down on his neck.

A staff member reportedly found the teenager about 20 minutes later, pinned under a 98-kilogram benchpress.

He was given first aid by staff and other gym members before paramedics rushed him to Lady Cilento Children’s Hospital.

According to PCYC gym and fitness centre policy and procedures, children under the age of 16 must complete an induction with a parent or guardian and must be supervised while at the gym.

PCYC officials said the Pine Rivers branch would remain closed until further notice and said they would co-operate fully with the investigation.

Workplace Health and Safety Queensland were looking into Ben Shaw's death and could not comment on an ongoing investigation.

"Operators of fitness centres that provide 24-hour access must ensure the safety of their operations, its members and the public. This includes ensuring the safety of equipment and periodic monitoring of the facilities," A WHSQ spokesman said.

"There are no specific health and safety laws for operators in the fitness industry. However, all persons conducting a business or undertaking (e.g. gymnasiums/personal trainers) must comply with their general duty of care under the Queensland Work Health and Safety Act 2011.

"They must ensure the health and safety of all workers at work and the health and safety of all other people (e.g. clients) who might be affected by the work.

"This includes providing and maintaining a safe work environment, safe plant and equipment and information, training, instruction or supervision necessary to protect all persons from risks to their health and safety arising from work carried out as part of the conduct of the business or undertaking."

The Queensland Police Service were also involved in the investigation.

A report will be prepared for the Coroner.


MARK BRANDON ONG CHONG JIN 19961015-20171003

扛举108公斤杠铃失手．学院生颈骨压伤身亡
2017-10-04 20:23

事发时，死者疑已疲劳却扛举108公斤杠铃，结果杠铃脱手压伤其颈部，导致他当场死亡。

死者黄宗劲（译音）爱好健身，过去的体重一度达99公斤，经过锻炼后减至84公斤，如今身材健硕。（脸书照片）

（雪兰莪．八打灵再也4日讯）一名热爱健身的20岁学院生昨晚疑在疲劳状态下，扛举108公斤杠铃时不慎失手，结果颈骨压伤身亡！

这起罕见命案于昨晚8时许，发生在雪州安邦再也美拉华蒂花园一间健身中心。

据了解，死者是来自柔佛峇株巴辖的黄宗劲（译音），生前就读马来西亚艺术学院（MIA）。

事发时，死者疑已疲劳却扛举108公斤杠铃，结果杠铃脱手压伤其颈部，导致他当场死亡。

据知死者爱好健身，过去的体重一度达99公斤，经过锻炼后减至84公斤，如今身材健硕，更计划参加健美先生比赛，未料竟发生如此悲剧。

死者也是一名兼职地产经纪，其上司在得知他死讯后，在脸书发帖文哀悼，并称死者是团队里的大宝贝，他的离去令人心痛，且一再表示不会忘记他爱玩闹的模样和笑声。

这名女上司也表示，多次叮咛死者要小心，但他总是粗心大意。

安邦再也警区主任韩查助理总监受询时证实此案，警方已将案件列为猝死案处理。


108公斤槓鈴壓斷頸骨 健身送命
2017年10月04日

死者生前常帶女友到健身房健身。右圖為死者友人在獲知死者離世的噩耗后，紛紛在死者面子書留言悼念。（照片取自死者社交網站）

（安邦再也4日訊）練健身，練到死！

一名打算參加健美比賽的20歲學院生，日前在健身房臥舉槓鈴時一時失手，被108公斤重的槓鈴壓中頸骨身亡！

疑因疲勞難破極限

死者黃宗錦（譯音）是健身愛好者，在馬來西亞藝術學院（MIA）求學之餘，也兼職地產經紀。

死者平時有定時上健身房健身，事發時疑因疲勞，而突破極限失敗，被脫手的槓鈴重壓頸骨，當場斃命在躺椅上。

此宗罕見命案于昨晚8時許，在雪州安邦再也美拉華蒂花園1間小型健身中心發生。

据了解，死者數年前體重約100公斤，之後養成健身習慣，使體重驟降至約80公斤，體型也越來越健碩。

呼叫3友人幫忙

據死者當時也在健身房的巫裔友人向《中國報》披露，事發時，健身房包括死者共有5人在場，其中3人在祈禱室祈禱，他則剛好出外買煙。

“我離開前，曾勸死者等我回來再鍛煉，孰料當我回到時，發現槓鈴壓在他的頸項，他已沒有意識了。”

他見狀立即呼叫3名友人出來幫忙，並合力移走槓鈴，也致電醫院求助。

醫護人員抵達現場時，宣布死者已斃命，遺體隨后被送往附近醫院剖驗。

死者父親接獲噩耗后，立即從柔佛峇株巴轄家鄉趕到醫院，抵達后與率先趕往醫院的妻子抱頭痛哭。

之后兩夫婦和死者胞姐及死者友人進入停屍間認屍，步出停屍間眾人皆傷心痛哭，停屍間一片愁雲慘霧。

死者遺體完成剖驗后，家屬于午間辦理領屍手續，遺體送家鄉峇株巴轄安葬。

加重訓練量沒找人支援

死者自行加重訓練量，卻沒有找人支援。

死者的巫裔友人德尼（24歲）透露，案發時，死者是臥舉共重108公斤的槓鈴，分別是兩邊啞鈴各45公斤及槓棍本身18公斤。

他說，在一般的情況下，如要突破平時極限，應該要有旁人支援，以在自己體力不支時，有人可以幫忙支撐槓鈴或其它健身器材。

他說，他曾聽死者說過打算參加一些健身中心舉辦的健美比賽，可能死者試圖突破自己的極限，以更好的狀態參與比賽。據他所知，死者平時不會舉那麼重。

他披露，死者擁有多年的健身經驗，所以他相信死者不是錯誤使用健身器材，才導致悲劇發生。

“死者很可能是因為事發時疲倦，才不幸失手。”

每週健身5天

死者每週前往健身中心5天，每次至少練2個小時！

德尼披露，死者熱愛健身，每次都是獨自來到健身房，在健身期間極為專注，鮮少與人交談。

“不過，死者在完成自己的健身后，就會和其他健身愛好者聊天，話題總是離不開健身的事。”

他說，死者為人風趣，在別人的眼中是一個“開心果”，孰料竟英年早逝。

記者週三（4日）下午前往事發健身房時，發現健身房仍照常營業，不過當時只有1人在內，但他拒絕受訪。

雪健身中心也發生暴斃案

無獨有偶，雪州梳邦再也一間健身中心，在上週五（29日）也發生了一宗跑步機暴斃案。

一名華裔男子於當天傍晚約6時30分，在該健身中心的跑步機跑步時，疑突然心臟病發，跌落地面后斃命。

據了解，死者是該健身中心的會員兼常客，平時經常作運動，但沒有聘請健身教練。

死者倒地后，健身中心內的人曾經為他急救但不果，中心負責人在確定他斃命后，馬上召來警員，死者遺體較後被送入沙登醫院太平間。

離21歲生日不到兩週

死者多才多藝，會彈鋼琴且熱愛唱歌，他的離世，導致他有很多的“來不及”，包括慶祝12天后來臨的21歲的生日，以及下個月的畢業典禮。

死者的生日是在10月15日，即事發當天的12天后，死者的女友及友人原打算為他慶祝21歲生日，孰料他活不到這一天。

熱愛唱歌的死者，生前在馬來西亞藝術學院（MIA）報讀音樂系，生前已接近完成課程，畢業禮定于今年的11月4日舉行，但他已來不及參加。

根據死者的社交網站顯示，死者生前與女友非常恩愛，經常上傳兩人的合照，同時相信死者人緣也不錯，時常與一大班朋友出外並合照上傳至網絡。

此外，死者也有上傳與友人一同自彈鋼琴及自唱的視頻，死者的歌聲也獲得不少友人留言讚賞。

教練：80kg舉重108kg
沒人支援試不得

80公斤舉重108公斤具有高難度、高危險性，沒有旁人支援不可一試。

資深健身教練黃俊軒（35歲）接受《中國報》訪問時說，一個體重80公斤的人，要臥舉重達108公斤的槓鈴，不是容易的事，因為那相等於其個人體重的1.35倍重量。

“不過，若這個人接受過很長時間的訓練，要舉起108公斤的重量，是有可能的。”

危險性高

擁有15年健身教練經驗的黃俊軒說，健身房內的所有機械訓練都有一定的危險性，尤其是當他們嘗試圖破自身的極限，嘗試越舉越重時，危險性就越高。

他說，健身新手應該要聘請健身教練，一來學習正確的姿勢和健身常識，二來則降低健身損傷的幾率。

“即使是已經熟練的健身老鳥或達人，當他們在嘗試自我圖破時，也應該要有夥伴的陪同，以防萬一。”

他說，疲勞、狀態不好和休息不夠等等，都會導致健身意外的發生。

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CI-003880-2016	28/4/2017	09.30 AM	Court 22	Ella Wahyu Setyaningrum
CI-003681-2016	28/4/2017	11.30 AM	Court 22	Louis Chen Hong Ming
CI-003809-2016	28/4/2017	03.00 PM	Court 22	M Mariyappan
CI-003705-2016	2/5/2017	09.30 AM	Court 22	Yamen Supriyani
CI-003718-2016	2/5/2017	03.00 PM	Court 22	Yuen Weng Soon
CI-003614-2016	3/5/2017	09.30 AM	Court 22	Wang Weihong
CI-003688-2016	3/5/2017	03.00 PM	Court 22	Ong Chai Seng
CI-003889-2016	4/5/2017	09.30 AM	Court 22	John Ying Wah Gibson
CI-003750-2016	5/5/2017	03.30 PM	Court 22	Yip Wing Keen
CI-003774-2016	5/5/2017	09.30 AM	Court 22	Koh Suan Ping (Xu XuanBin)
CI-003775-2016	5/5/2017	09.30 AM	Court 22	Ng Le Xuan Jaelyn (Huang Le Xuan)
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杂到完全下不了题目的杂想

我的思绪转换得太快，快得没办法一一解释和记下，往往想到合适的词汇和句子时，情绪上的细节都记不起来了。

我尽力把有关YW的所有搜索记录都删掉，却还是不由自主的在前天搜到他的出殡资料，而且还是在火化的一个小时前。某个开关又开了。

昨晚，对着Youtube唱歌的我突然又回到Facebook搜寻YW，发现有人点了首五月天的干杯给他。开关开了不久，我漫无目的的在Facebook翻着从前和朋友的合照，开始觉得自己一路走来并不差。既然我都对某艺人寻短的消息无动于衷了，那我何必在乎YW，甚至翻出他的过往？我有一股冲动，想把家人、朋友的照片都存在手机里，当我的救命稻草。

今早在厨房等着热水煮开，我又想起了YW，觉得短暂的人生其实也不算坏。但到了外头买早餐时，另一个想法又突然涌现：如果YW没活到上周，他被人记得的事可能没有现在看到的那么多；如果他再活久一些，毕业了，当上了写手，或许他让人记得的东西又会不同。

我回头看我自己，连我对自己的印象都是模糊一片，更何况是他人？那我凭什么去追求一个相同的谢幕？我还记得八年前JW的事（话说回来，这个月初好像是他的生日，这个星期一过应该就和我同年了），还记得自己曾经下定决心，要像他一样，创造一个最完美的自己，然后完美落地。

可是，现在的我是一块没有目标的浮木，接下来肯定会有更多类似的人与事不断侵蚀我的时间和注意力。即使这些讣闻能推动我前进，我还是不知道我想达到的完美，到底是什么样子。

生与死变成相互的助力，听起来很讽刺；
想死却发现自己完全连死后能被人记得的事情都没有，听起来更讽刺。

（打这篇文章以前，附近健身服饰店的促销让我想起了RH参加田径赛时的样子——他最好的自己是已经留下了，还是在离开时仍未出现？）

Damn it

1984. April. 13.
23-year-old NUS Chinese Studies graduate See Chong Hui hanged himself in Pasir Panjang, days after the final exam paper in his degree. He had been diagnosed with depression. He was a cartoon columnist for newspapers, and was awarded posthumously for a play script. As a tribute, one of his poems was adapted into a stage play on his first death anniversary.

2013. April. 23.
21-year-old NUS Political Science + USP student Peter Huen hanged himself in Cinnamon College. The Hwa Chong Institution alumnus had contributed poems in campus, and was also a foosball player. His poem was published in a compilation months after he was gone.

2016. September. 29.
26-year-old Yale-NUS Global Affairs student Dennis Chiang fell from his dorm at level 16 in his final year. He was reportedly taking antidepressants. He had been pursuing writing as a career, with his contributions published in a yearbook (available in libraries).

Why are talented souls always being snatched away from us?

Distress Signal

The New Paper
Sep 4, 2016 6:00am
BY CATHERINE ROBERT, PHYLLIS LEE

Last month, two JC students killed themselves. Experts are seeing more teens over exam stress.

It has been making the rounds online.

Two students from Raffles Institution, with everything ahead of them, decided life for them was over last month.

And within 10 days of each other, both took their own lives.

They were A-level students, one in the first year and the other in second year.

What is worrying, say the experts, is that they have seen an increase in the number of students sharing the same disturbing thoughts.

"I've had a few come to me and tell me they want to kill themselves (because they cannot cope)", says Dr Thomas Lee, a psychiatrist from Resilienz Clinic.

He has 10 such patients now, twice the number from five years ago.

"It is actually quite common that these students get suicidal thoughts," he says.

One of his patients had suicidal thoughts and was close to giving up when his school counsellor recommended he seek professional help.

He was in his second year of JC.

Dr Lee says: "(That patient) was one of those students who did well in secondary school but saw his grades deteriorate after he gained entry into a reputable JC.

"Part of his depressive condition came from the embarrassment that he wasn't doing as well as his peers, and it didn't help that he didn't have a strong support system at home.

"After he scraped through his first year, he thought it would somehow get better the year after but it didn't."

His suicidal thoughts persisted for months, Dr Lee says, but with prescribed medication and psychotherapy, he eventually improved.

Last year, 27 children aged between 10 and 19 ended their lives, according to figures from the Samaritans of Singapore. It is the highest for the age group in 15 years.

In 2014, it was 13 suicides for the same age group.

Why they killed themselves was not specified in the report.

But several clinics here say they have seen an increase in students in that age group seeking help - all had suicidal thoughts.

When it gets to that stage, the student would have "endured pressure for quite some time", says Mr Daniel Koh, a psychologist with Insights Mind Centre.

He has 20 students who need help, twice of what he handled last year.

CUMULATIVE

Mr Koh says: "They might hit breaking point during the exam period, but it is important to note that the stress is cumulative and cannot be attributed solely to exams.

"For example, students can be pressured by a whole list of reasons like meeting parents' expectations, making it into top schools or even making up for previous bad results to lift their overall grade.

"The anxiety accumulates over time before it gets to a point where they cannot cope and start to have suicidal thoughts."

And this accumulation of pressures affects children of all ages.

A spokesman for the Resilienz Clinic says: "We see students of all ages - mostly those who are about to sit for important papers such as the PSLE, O-level to A-level exams.''

But the increased number seeking help is not necessarily a bad thing, says Dr Lee.

"It is good that these kids are seeking help young because it is imperative to intervene as early as possible before the negative thoughts become too persistent."
- Additional reporting by Phyllis Lee

"For example, students can be pressured by a whole list of reasons like meeting parents' expectations, making it into top schools or even making up for previous bad results to lift their overall grade."
- Mr Daniel Koh, psychologist with Insights Mind Centre

Signs to look out for

Parents should seek professional help for their child if they notice significant changes in the child's behaviour.

Dr Lim Choon Guan, deputy chief of the department of child and adolescent psychiatry at the Institute of Mental Health, said parents should take note if their child:

- Becomes withdrawn
- Loses interest in activities he used to enjoy
- Becomes aggressive towards others
- Seems emotional, depressed, moody, irritable or scared most of the time
- Experiences a loss of appetite
- Feels anxious and restless
- No longer sleeps well
- Refuses to attend school, or his school results plummet for no apparent reason
- Expresses abnormal and negative thoughts such as suicide

Psychologist Freda Sutanto at Kaleidoscope Therapy Centre says friends can also keep a lookout for the following symptoms in peers suffering from exam stress:

- Focuses solely on talking about exams instead of a variety of topics
- Suddenly spends a lot of time engaging in avoidant behaviour like playing computer games constantly - a result of procrastinating the inevitable anxiety
- Sudden consumption of too many stimulants, such as coffee or Redbull, to "help" with studying
- Appearance of dark eye circles or a constant look of lethargy

Dealing with stress

Mr Daniel Koh, a psychologist at Insights Mind Centre, says there are ways for students to deal with exam stress:

l Have at least seven to eight hours of sleep daily - the best time to sleep is around 11pm
l Maintain a good diet
l Do light exercises or take leisure walks
l Spend time with family and don't focus entirely on academics
l Strike a balance among play, work and things that require your mental ability
l Take proper breaks. Don't study through the day or night
l If you're a morning person, do the heavier studying in the morning; vice versa for night owls
l Spend time doing things you like, such as gardening or baking
l If you are still overwhelmed, seek professional help

She hinted at her depression in blog

Tiffany Quek was eloquent and her writing, thought-provoking.

It also showed a troubled mind.

On Aug 11, the first-year junior college student wrote two posts on her blog.

They hinted at her depression.

She wrote of not wanting to "fight" any more and "not minding" if she had to leave.

But none of her friends picked up the clues. Then came the news.

"It was evident that something had happened," a schoolmate from the JC tells The New Paper on Sunday.

"Her closest friends were seen crying."

"It was later that we heard news of her demise as it circulated. It was first given to her closest friends."

The school announced her death during its morning assembly on Aug 16, about four days after the incident.

Six days later, members of the school's track team were told of their teammate's death.

Ringo Han Jia Ming was a second-year student.

On Aug 23, the school sent students for "emergency civics class", and they were reminded by tutors of a support system available to them if they are struggling to cope.

[Self-help Post] Grieving for a Stranger

Stuck in another 2 demises (groom-to-be and promising entrepreneur, both in their 20s) recently. And still struggle to get back to my own life.

Luckily, seems someone knows me.


Grieving for a stranger
http://au.reachout.com/grieving-for-a-stranger

When someone in the public eye dies, the media can go a bit crazy over it. How you react is very unique to you, and you shouldn't be worried if it makes you really upset, or doesn't impact you at all. If sadness is all around, there are things you can do to help yourself feel better.


This could be helpful if:

• You're sad about a death reported in the media 
• You don’t know what to do after a death in the media 
• You don’t like how a death is being reported in the media newspaper stack

Reacting to a death in the media

It sounds clichéd but there really isn't a right or a wrong way to react to the death of a stranger. Many people experience grief when they hear about a strangers’ passing, whether a celebrity or ordinary person.

If you are experiencing grief or a sense of loss at the news of a stranger’s death, it’s probably because you feel some kind of connection to the person who has died. Whether they were your sporting hero, they played the sitcom dad you always wished you had, a heartthrob you wanted to get freaky with, sung some song that hit all of the right notes, or just reminded you of someone you know, you feel a sense of loss because that person made you feel something, and now they are gone.

On the other hand, if you don’t feel a connection to a celebrity who has passed away, it might be difficult to relate to the public outpouring of grief that is likely piling up in your social media newsfeed. Without having established some kind of emotional connection to someone, it can be hard to feel a loss when they are gone. That’s perfectly normal and understandable - after all, your life probably won’t change in the slightest.

Everyone will feel different things, and that’s just fine.


Why am I so sad about this? 

Regardless of how well we know the person who is gone, we know there are loved ones out there whose lives have just been flipped upside down. There are friends who will never get to say that one last thing and families who have an empty seat at their table. Also, you just lost any chance at letting this person know what they meant to you.


What can I do about it?

• Accept that it’s real grief you are feeling. You’re not being silly. Take a minute for yourself if you need to.
• Check in with mates. If you’re upset, chances are your friends are too. Ask how they are doing, and talk it over with them. 
• Turn off the news/log off social media. Sometimes seeing the never ending stream of tributes can be overwhelming. 
• Write it down. Putting your thoughts onto paper can help clarify how you’re feeling and make it easier to process. 
• Report it. There are pretty strict rules about reporting death in the media, especially around suicide or mental health issues. Check out mindframe for more info, and contact ACMA if you want to make a complaint. 

It's been a while and I'm still sad

If the feelings of sadness don’t go away quickly, or you feel like they are starting to interrupt your life, consider chatting to a professional about it. Moving through those feelings will be much easier and faster with a professionals help. A GP is a good place to start. If you need to talk to someone right now give Kids Helpline (1800 55 1800) or Lifeline (13 11 14) a call - they're available 24hrs, 7-days a week


What can I do now?

• Find out more about common ways people respond to loss.
• Check out some coping skills.
• Get more info on loss and grief.

Additional Resources: 

http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-that-im-crying-over-a-strangers-death-78887/
http://www.recover-from-grief.com/mourning-jeffrey.html

20151027 The Straits Times

Army sergeant dies in car accident near Second Link

PUBLISHED OCT 27, 2015, 10:22 PM SGT

SINGAPORE - A sergeant in the Singapore Armed Forces (SAF) died in a car crash in Johor on Sunday (Oct 25), as he returned from a trip to Malacca with his brother and a friend.

The three were driving along thehighway near the Second Link on Sunday (Oct 25) afternoon when the car skidded after a tyre puncture, Chinese evening daily Lianhe Wanbao reported.

Mr Tang Liang Wei, 23, flew out of the car and died at the scene, reported Wanbao, quoting Johor police.

His brother, Mr Tang Xuan Wei, 21, is believed to be the driver.

This was the second tyre puncture they encountered during the drive back. They stopped at Yong Peng earlier to change the right rear tyre.

When the tyre punctured the second time, the car swerved violently and the older Mr Tang was hurled out of the car, suffering serious injuries to his head, Wanbao said.

His younger brother and their friend were unhurt.

It was drizzling and the road was wet, The Straits Times understands.

Mr Tang Liang Wei was a third sergeant in the SAF.

His brother, Xuan Wei, wrote on Facebook on Monday: "Kor kor (elder brother)... You will always be in my heart. I will be strong, for you... please bless us where ever you are. I love you."

In another post, he wrote in Mandarin: "You went with regrets, I will live with guilt."

20151027 Lianhe Wanbao

弟开车返新路上
两次爆胎　兄抛车外死

27/10/2015 by 黄志发　王震宇



从马六甲回返狮城，弟弟开车，途中两次爆胎，第二次爆胎时汽车失控打滑，哥哥整个人从后挡风镜抛飞出车外，当场惨死。

这起致命车祸，发生在前天下午2时45分，地点靠近新马第二通道第23.8公里附近的路段。

不幸遭抛飞身亡的哥哥邓亮伟（23岁），是武装部队的一名三级上士。据了解，汽车司机是他的二弟邓轩维（21岁，译音）。当时肇祸的汽车内还有另一名男子薛德俊（17岁，译音，新加坡理工学学生），相信是弟弟的朋友。

柔佛努沙再也警区主任诺哈欣今早接受本报记者访问时说，证实这起车祸。

据他说，初步调查显示，当时车上共有三人，开车的是邓轩维，死者则坐在后座。据了解，另一个朋友坐在后座。

警区主任诺哈欣说，初步调查，汽车驶到柔佛永平时，右边的后轮胎突然爆胎，他们停车更换轮胎后继续上路。

不料来到案发地点时，被更换的轮胎又再次爆裂，导致汽车失控，从左边冲到右边路段。

猛烈的冲击力，导致死者连同车后的挡风镜一起被抛出车外。

诺哈欣表示，死者的头部受重伤，当场死亡。

同行的友人和死者的二弟，据知没有在意外中受伤。

薛德俊目前就读新加坡理工学院，今年17岁，相信是二弟的朋友。

他当时坐在副驾驶座，据了解意外发生后并没有受伤。

车祸发生时，现场下着毛毛雨，路面湿滑。

努沙再也警區主任诺哈欣告诉本报，事发现场共有两个车道，路段是笔直的。

他说，据调查，当时光线充足，不过下着小雨，路面湿滑。

他也指附近的路标指示清楚，除了轮胎爆胎外，没有其他造成车祸的疑点。

好心狮城车主　载死者父母认尸

好心狮城车主协助报警，还载死者父母到新山医院认尸。

据本报了解，三人共乘的是三菱Lancer汽车；事发后，尾随的一辆狮城汽车目睹车祸，立刻停车帮忙。

狮城车主先拨电报警，跟着向邓轩维与薛德俊了解情况。

由于两人要留下协助当地警方调查，因此狮城车主返回新加坡，协助载死者的父母过去新山医院。

昨晚死者二弟在灵堂受访时，也承认获得好心狮城车主的协助，但不愿多谈。

弟弟自责：你遗憾上路　我内疚一世

死者二弟面簿留言语带自责，他说：“你带着遗憾上路, 我挂着内疚一世”。

眼看大哥因自己受伤过世，开车的邓轩维先在大哥的面簿留言说：“哥哥，一路走好，你将永远在我心中；为了你我会坚强，请保佑我们，我爱你。”

跟着，一个小时后他又在自己的面簿留言指大哥遗憾上路，但他也一世内疚。

许多亲友担心他的情绪，纷纷留言鼓励他振作。

弟为兄守灵　亲友一旁陪伴

弟弟神情哀伤地为哥哥守灵，亲友在旁陪伴。

记者昨晚走访遗体停柩处，但死者的二弟婉拒受访，表示不方便透露太多。

弟弟一边招呼亲友，一边为哥哥守灵，神色凝重。一群约10名相信是弟弟的朋友，在一旁陪伴和安慰他，待了一个多小时后才离开。

据死者的一名邻居说，前晚曾听到单位内，传出哭泣声，但不知什么事情。

死者的遗体昨天运回国，明天出殡。

死者遗体昨天下午从马国运回新加坡，停柩在住家楼下。死者的二弟透露，哥哥会在星期四出殡。

昨晚是丧礼的第一晚，许多亲朋好友都前去慰问，大家的心情都很沉重。

巧合

这是两位台湾学生的故事。

7月30日，他决定干大事，选择自戕。
8月17日，他到国外庆祝，却遇上爆炸案，没有选择也没时间反应。

他们都在过20岁生日。
我讨厌这样的巧合，更讨厌人生的脆弱。

如果有时光机，我想把这封信传回去

我太容易被一些憾事困扰，包括这一件。
那种“如果可以改变历史”的思绪反复循环，真的很不好受。

所以，我决定把我能用来劝说的话全写下来。我不擅长说服人，但真的还是希望有一台时光机能把这封信寄回几天前，或许可以赌一把，让他留下。

我不希望这只是妄想，不希望这只是写来放过自己的一篇文章。

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嘿，大帅哥：

还有几个小时，先预祝你生日快乐，总算到达一个里程碑。

你不必知道我是谁，但我知道你想趁着生日实行某件大事。我写这封信的目的，就是为了阻止你做这件事。

你或许觉得是自己是在实现Charlie Charlie的预言——既然都说得那么玄了，我就干脆来预言它没提到的后续发展。

我不认识你，所以没办法判断你到底怎么想，但原因应该不外乎两个。

一、你觉得你的离开可以把事情挡下来，给战友们缓冲时间。
可是事实上，你挡下的不是敌人，而是你的战友。
你搞出这么大的事端，随后率先被挖出来的是你的个资、你的人生、你的人际关系。你被放大检视，议题焦点反而被模糊了。
别天真的以为你这是在弃车保帅，又甚至觉得自己在从容就义。你是个核心人物，没讨论过就莽撞行事，团队少了你已经士气大伤，还接着被舆论二度伤害。
简单来说，这是个得不偿失的战略失败。

二、几天前的挫折把你的迷惘、疲累、失望全都掀了出来。
如果你是好不容易才撑到今天，我会送你一句辛苦了。
但有些事，还是要让你知道。
你的家人很自责，觉得自己来不及了解你，以致把你的才智和理想埋没。
你的他走了出来，说来不及见你一面，呼吁每个人继续关注议题，而非你的离去。
我没心情继续跟进嗜血媒体如何穷追不舍、从这些爱你的人身上套取新闻，但从事发头两天出现的讯息看来，他们将继续承受失去你的痛，而社会大众终究会把你和你带来的一切遗忘。

我在你生日的三天后才第一次读到小王子这本书，我还在想他走向毒蛇的心境，究竟是天真的以为他真的能达到回去B-612的目的，还是因为自己已在耗时的过程中感到心力交瘁。

我觉得你就是小王子的投射——聪明、纯真、善良、暖心（你在捷运做的，在你生日后又被提起了）。
但没人希望看到你像小王子一样离开，因为你没看过的世界比他没看过的更多，因为你也有和你相互牵挂着的玫瑰和狐狸。

为了自己，为了关心你的人，活着看接下来的好几个十年，当作是替自己抢回发言权和扳回一城的机会。别忘了，入土的人没有行动力，而且只能任别人诠释自己。看看之前的尘爆案，你的今天正是许多人到不了的明天，别放弃还握在手上的主控权。

所以，别选择明天离开，好吗？

你没见过的陌生人 笔
2015年7月29日 18:00